August 11, 2020

What do money and weight loss have in common?

Money and weight loss have more in common than you think.

I work with women who feel out of control around food. I teach them how to feel in control around food. I help them take charge of their body and their life. The tools I teach them are the same tools you can use to take charge of your bank balance, if you spend more than you wish you spent.

Let me show you how.

The reason my clients want to lose weight is because they feel ashamed about their bodies. The reason they feel ashamed is that society has told them that they should be thin. They think they are inadequate and the feeling of shame drives them to eat. They escape the negative feelings by seeking pleasure in the form of food.

It’s the same for anyone who overspends. The overspending is caused by feelings of shame. Our society tells us that we should have nice things like pretty shoes, fancy handbags and expensive home-wear. We escape those negative feelings by seeking pleasure and abundance by spending money on things that makes us feel better.

The scarcity mindset of not having enough, perpetuates overeating or overspending. And every time we partake in the pleasure of overeating or overspending, we get a little dopamine hit. That dopamine drives us to do it again and again. It’s why it feels out of control and why we cannot stop. It’s a vicious cycle.

The problem is not our overspending and overeating. The true root of the problem is our mindset. It’s the way we think. It’s what we believe.

I help women lose weight permanently by helping them change their mindset. When they change the way they think, they are able to lose weight permanently. If you are struggling with money, I want to offer you the 4 essential mindset shifts I offer my clients in order to create permanent change!

1. Stop beating yourself up. It may seem useful, but the beats ups just make you feel worse and in order to feel better… you end up seeking pleasure. (For some of you, it will be shopping for others food.) Focus on showing yourself some love and compassion. I want to tell you something. You are enough, just as you are. You don’t need to change in order to be enough. Your worthiness is absolutely intrinsic. That doesn’t mean you never change what you do or who you are. It means you don’t have to change, but you can change, simply because you want to.
2. Often we lack awareness and this can prevent us from creating change. Pay attention to what you are doing and thinking. Pay attention to when you spend money and what you spend money on. Also, notice what you are thinking and feeling when you spend money. You’ve got to identify the problem, before you can solve it. And make sure you go back to mindset shift number one – show yourself love and compassion!
3. If you feel terrible, I have some good news and bad news. You are not supposed to be happy all the time. The good news is, nothing changed except when you feel shit, you don’t increase your suffering by thinking it should be a different way. You can find acceptance for the negative half of life. It’s part of the human experience. The bad news is, you are sometimes going to feel like shit. (I teach my clients how to develop emotional fitness and understanding, if you want to know more reach out to me nicky@nickyhammond.com.)
4. When you think you are out of control, don’t believe it. Notice when you tell yourself that you are out of control. As long as you believe that thought, you can’t change it. The truth is, we have to engage our brain to get to the shops or the computer, we must decide to pull out our credit card and we make the purchase. It may not feel like you are in control, this is because our brain goes into automatic mode, but the truth is, you are ALWAYS in control.