I wonder if you are being really strict with yourself in order to get what you want. You tell yourself ahead of time what is expected. “You are going to follow the plan, this is not negotiable!”
And IF something goes wrong. You give yourself a talking to, with the ferocity of a mama lion. “Not good enough, you should have done better ROAR!”
It feels like holding yourself accountable with strictness is the way to achieve what we want. We think the only other alternative is to let ourselves off the hook. To not try at all.
I know this well. Throughout my life I felt out of control and the only way I could feel more in control was to be strict with myself. It came out in the form of perfectionism. I’m still recovering.
The good news is, there is another way. AND it doesn’t feel horrible. In fact it feels like LOVE.
You don’t have to beat yourself into success.
The trick is to come from abundance. When we think we are not enough or we feel unworthy it feels like punishment. When we decide consciously ahead of time that worthiness is intrinsic, it isn’t something we need to prove, then we can decide what we want, we can decide why we want it. We can create determination, motivation and self love with what we are thinking.
To create abundance, the very first step is to find out what beliefs are currently blocking you from believing that you are absolutely worthy and enough in this moment.
If you want to know more about how to believe in your intrinsic worthiness, check out my video.
Image by Timothy Eberly.