Do you ever feel like there is a mean mum inside your head.
I’ve been there! It’s not fun. We lose our confidence.
It’s time to say goodbye to that part of you. Let it go. How?
First, the reason we act “mean” is because of the thoughts we are thinking. Self-critical thoughts like “I’m not good enough”, “I’m not worthy” or “I’m a terrible mum”. When we recycle negative thoughts like this, the result for us is feeling terrible and getting stuck in a cycle of self-criticism.
To get unstuck we have to change our thinking. The great news is, we have the power to do this! One step at a time.
I don’t believe in affirmations. If I start trying to convince myself that “I’m a domestic goddess and I should win the mother of the year award” then my brain is going to tell me “that’s not true”. My brain is going to find proof for why I don’t believe I’m a domestic goddess and why I shouldn’t win the mother of the year award.
So instead, let go of perfection. I practice thinking “I’m not perfect and that’s OK”. Phew, I already feel some relief!
And then I start thinking something I really believe. I’m going to offer you some thoughts to focus your mind on. If they resonate them, practice them daily. When you start practicing these new thoughts, you are creating a brand new neural pathway. It may feel unnatural at first, but if you keep practicing, the neural pathway will become well travelled, the thought will become easier until you’ve practiced it so many time that it becomes automatic. It will become a BELIEF.
I am enough
I love being a mum
I love my kids
I am worthy
I am perfect for my kids
We are learning together
The final idea I want to offer you, is to treat yourself and others with curiosity and compassion. Go on try it. It will change your relationship with yourself and others, for the better!
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